Content
Introduction
Who is a True Woman?
The True Woman I Yearn to Be
15 Timeless Qualities of a Woman of God
True Woman in Action
Dear woman,
Every day, we are bombarded with countless messages telling us who and what we should be to be hailed as a ‘real’ woman.
Today’s culture pushes the idea that being strong, assertive, and independent of men are the key markers of the ‘liberated’ woman.
We are led to believe that worldly success, fame, and promiscuity are the way to go for women who call themselves ‘the real deal’.
We are constantly being pushed to disdain our God-blessed feminine dispositions—to reject being soft, nurturing, life-giving, and desiring deep relational bonds.
Culture sees many of our strengths as weaknesses, and ‘less modern’. And sadly, many women have been deceived by the enemy’s lies.
Who is a True Woman?
Before we explore the timeless qualities of a true woman, let’s first understand who this girl is.
A true woman is a female who fears the Lord, saved by His grace, and exemplifies virtuous character.
Therefore, a true woman is a WOMAN OF GOD.
As the Revive Our Hearts blog describes her,
“She’s a woman who says “yes” to the Truth. She’s also a woman who discerns and says “no” to lies. She has faith to believe the Truth even when the world makes lies seem believable. As she embraces Truth and rejects lies, she lives in freedom, reflecting God’s image in the truest way. She is a true woman.”
This summarises the essence of the true woman I yearn to be— one who walks boldly in the freedom that God called me to in Jesus Christ, my Lord.
15 Timeless Qualities of the True Woman, aka. the Woman of God
“Yes Lord!” proclaims my soul during that brief divine moment at 22 years old. As I rode my bicycle back home, I knew my life, and my whole identity had changed.
God has called me His own, and even after 3 years, I’m still learning to adjust myself within the kingdom family.
You see ladies, becoming a true woman of the King requires you to abandon destructive attitudes and behaviors that go against God’s call for holiness.
It requires you to crucify prideful tendencies by allowing the Holy Spirit to lead the way towards freedom on earth as it is heaven.
Ultimately, becoming a true woman is a work in progress, but is oh-so-worth it.
May we each take humble and joyful steps toward becoming the true woman that God has graciously called His daughters to be.
1. She Fears God
A true woman fears God.
Many women would say that they do, but only a few truly understand what it means.
A woman of God lives in deep reverence for her King. She acknowledges God as a sovereign who guides everything according to His Kingdom plan. She honors God as her creator, and savior through the blood of Jesus Christ.
This genuine fear of God is evident in her deep love for Him, her commitment to righteousness, as well as her efforts to surrender her entire womanhood to His awesome design.
"Blessed are all who fear the Lord, who walk in obedience to him.” Psalms 128
"Now all has been heard; here is the conclusion of the matter: Fear God and keep his commandments, for this is the duty of all mankind." Ecclesiastes 12:13
2. She is Faithful
A true woman is faithful.
Her faithfulness is seen in her commitment to Jesus, her devotion to her family, and her dedication to fulfilling her God-given assignment.
It’s disheartening to see many women, including Christians, forsaking a devotion to God in pursuit of worldly pleasures. We have become more enamored with the things of the world than God’s heart.
Mothers have abandoned the home. Wives wandered off their bodies to another man. God’s daughters disregard the tasks God called them to get done.
On the other hand, true women of God are committed to their Master. They have zero desire to be unfaithful and lukewarm. Instead, they strive to live for their Father’s glory, who graciously rewards those who obey His will.
A woman of God is also faithful to her husband. She stands beside him through the rockiest of storms.
She is faithful to her children. She builds them up in the knowledge and understanding of God. She helps guide them toward becoming responsible and God-fearing members of society.
She approaches her calling with diligence and passion, knowing that her work glorifies God and blesses others.
In essence, a true woman is faithful to God, her family, and her assignments, seeing these as powerful ways to reflect the faithfulness that God constantly shows her.
“Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.” Prov 31:11
"His master replied, ‘Well done, good and faithful servant! You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you in charge of many things. Come and share your master’s happiness." Matthew 25:21
3. She Embodies Agape Love
A true woman embodies agape love.
Agape love is the highest and purest form of love.
Christ is the full embodiment of agape love who calls His sons and daughters to lay down their lives for others as He did for us.
A woman of God understands that agape love doesn't come naturally to her because of our fallen nature. Therefore, she intentionally chooses to love deeply and selflessly.
She joyfully expresses agape love in acts of sacrifice, faithfulness, and commitment towards God, her husband, and her children.
She also practices forgiving her enemies, in order to reflect Christ’s love and a means to remove all strife from her heart.
A woman of God aims to love like God, and in return, she is deeply cherished, and celebrated by Him.
"This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers and sisters." 1 John 3:16 (NIV)
"As a young man marries a young woman, so will your Builder marry you; as a bridegroom rejoices over his bride, so will your God rejoice over you."Isaiah 62:5
4. She Embodies Humility
A true woman embodies humility.
She is neither arrogant nor brash, but rather meek, modest, and unassuming.
She doesn’t seek to glorify herself, but her Father above.
Sadly, modern women are drifting away from this timeless quality. We have been fooled into believing that being loud and self-exalting would provide the validation and fulfillment we seek.
Contrarily, for the woman of God, humility means
recognizing that her gifts and accomplishments are blessings from God,
that she doesn’t know everything,
that the world doesn’t revolve around, or is entitled to her, and
that she needs Christ for true fulfillment.
A true woman doesn’t draw people to her through boasty declarations but through the quiet strength of her humble character.
“For the Lord takes delight in his people; he crowns the humble with victory." Psalms 149:4
"Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth." Matthew 5:5
5. She Overflows with Gratitude
A true woman overflows with gratitude.
She recognizes God as the source of her blessings, existence, and salvation.
Sadly, many women have, at some point in their lives, taken for granted all that God has given them. As a result of harboring an ungrateful spirit, many women have grown to become bitter, weary, and miserable.
In contrast, a woman of God appreciates and celebrates God’s constant goodness and love towards her.
She credits Him for “every good and perfect gift”.
Even in the midst of her struggles, she praises God. She acknowledges her trials as precious moments to express heartfelt thanksgiving to her Father. She trusts that He will work things out for her good, and His glory.
“give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” 1 Thessalonians 5:18
"Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows.” James 1:17
6. She Models Honesty
A true woman models honesty.
This timeless trait sets her apart among women who engage in deceitful practices—those who rather lie and manipulate to elevate themselves, and who bear false witness to ruin others.
In contrast, a woman of God shuns corruption. She speaks truthfully about herself and others.
She knows that God despises a dishonest tongue, and delights in those who emulate His character of honesty.
As an image bearer of her father, a true woman upholds truth and integrity in all she does.
“ Lying lips are an abomination to the Lord, but those who act faithfully are his delight.” Proverbs 12:22
“For we aim at what is honorable not only in the Lord's sight but also in the sight of man.” 2 Corinthians 8:21
7. She is Chastise
A true woman pursues chastity.
She honors and cherishes the sacredness of sexual intimacy within the boundaries established between the Most High, namely between a husband and wife.
Although the world perverts the beauty of sex by labeling sexual abstinence until marriage outdated and unnecessary, a woman of God doesn’t buy into those lies. Instead, she holds fast to God’s truth, honoring Him with both her body and mind.
I must also mention that a woman who remains a virgin until marriage, as well as one who has had sex before marriage but has repented, and remains committed to honoring God with her sexuality, is as beautiful as the former.
When sin entered the world, it corrupted the sanctity of sex. Therefore, both women have been affected by some levels of sexual perversion.
The great news is that Christ died for our sexual sins and clothed us with purity. As born-again Christians, we are called— and have what it takes to live in sexual holiness.
“Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.” 1 Corinthians 19:20.
"May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer.” Proverbs 5:18
8. She is Hardworking
A true woman is hardworking.
She delights in the work of her hands as a gift from God.
Many modern women would rather to lie in bed and watch Netflix all day, endlessly scroll through TikTok, and gossip away their time. However, the woman of God stewards her time and energy wisely.
Whether she is a stay-at-home mom diligently caring for her household, an elderly woman cheerfully serving young women in the knowledge of God, or a single woman dedicating her time to growing in faith and refining her craft for God’s glory, regardless of the season God places her in, she is committed to diligence and excellence.
"She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness" Proverbs 31:13
"In her hand she holds the distaff and grasps the spindle with her fingers." Proverbs 31:19
9. She Maximises her Gifts
A true woman maximizes her God-given gifts to serve others and glorify God.
She strives to produce the highest level of excellence in her craft to bless others and glorify Christ.
A woman of God never stops learning how to better serve the Kingdom each day, so that in the end, she may hear these satisfying words from her Master: “Well done, my good and faithful servant.”
Whether her ministry is as a stay-at-home mother and wife, physician or entrepreneur, or any other assignments God has set in her heart to complete, a true woman optimizes her calling to place Christ on the pedestal.
“His master replied, ‘Well done, good and faithful servant! You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you in charge of many things. Come and share your master’s happiness!” (Matthew 25:21)
"She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar. She gets up while it is still night; she provides food for her family and portions for her female servants.” Proverbs 31:14-15
10. She Radiates Life (Joy & Passion)
A true woman radiates life.
She embodies a steady sense of joy and passion that can only come from walking in the freedom that God called her to in Christ.
She acknowledges her existence as a gracious gift from God, who delightfully made her in His image so that she may come to know, dwell, and delight in Him.
However, the joy you see in a true woman of God reflects a deeper longing, a longing to be restored with her Betrothed when He returns.
She is happy because she knows her future, secured in Christ, will be infinitely better than the life she is living now. Until then, she remains on fire for Him.
She doesn’t allow negativity and ingratitude to consume her soul. She doesn’t allow life’s challenges to shatter her hope, and douse her spark.
Instead, a woman of God remains zealous and thankful, approaching her work with purpose, and raising her children in the same joy God has shown her.
"The Lord has done great things for us, and we are filled with joy."- Psalms 126:3
"He settles the childless woman in her home as a happy mother of children. Praise the Lord." Psalm 113:9
11. She Values Rest
A true woman values rest.
She works hard and rests hard!
Unlike a world that idolizes busyness, where constant hustle is equated with productivity, and rest is viewed as a waste of time and money, a woman of God sees the importance of resting the mind and body.
In her rest, she finds clarity and renewed energy to adequately serve God, family, and soul.
She delights in rest as an act of surrender to a God who controls everything.
She rests to find peace in His goodness and presence.
By intentionally incorporating rest in her daily life, a true woman honors God’s design for both hard work and the Sabbath.
"There remains, then, a Sabbath-rest for the people of God; for anyone who enters God’s rest also rests from their own work, just as God did from his." Hebrews 4:9-10
"He makes me lie down in green pastures, he leads me beside quiet waters," Psalm 23:2
12. She Honors the Masculine
A true woman honors masculinity.
She respects and values the God-given qualities and roles that men play.
In a world where manhood is often devalued, mocked, and unappreciated, a woman of God chooses to affirm and encourage the protection, provision, leadership, and sacrificial strengths that real men bring to relationships and society.
She submits to and delights in her husband's headship, recognizing that her submission and honor towards Him is an act of reverence and worship to God.
She responds to proper leadership and does not follow a man into sin as Christ is her ultimate allegiance.
She recognizes that men, like women, are imperfect and fall short of God’s glory and that the only means to restore the male-female harmony is for both parties to die to themselves and place Christ at the center.
“For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands.” 1 Peter 3:5
"But I want you to realize that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, and the head of Christ is God." 1 Corinthians 11:3
13. She Embraces Softness
A true woman embraces softness.
The world encourages women to disdain being soft, but a true woman delights in this precious disposition that God has uniquely placed within her.
She understands that choosing to be soft DOESN’T EQUATE TO WEAKNESS, but a sign of STRENGTH (ladies, it takes great strength to remain whole and kind, rather than becoming bitter, hardened, and miserable).
Softness within strength indicates a heart wholly submitted to God.
She is soft because she surrenders to the masculine support and provision of her God.
She is soft because she trusts in God’s goodness even in the face of difficulties.
She is soft because it reflects a heart overflowing with compassion, grace, understanding, and health.
She is soft because a surrendered heart glorifies God, making her precious in His eyes.
"But let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious." (1 Peter 3:4)
"She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come." Proverbs 31:25
14. She Cheerfully Serves Her Home
A true woman cheerfully serves her home.
It’s crazy how so many women scorn domesticity. They have fallen for the lies that giving you all to the family and managing home affairs is demeaning, less meaningful, or even repulsive.
As a result, many modern women forgo motherhood to claim a lifestyle that often turns out empty. Even those who do become wives and mothers sometimes grow to despise their roles and valuable contributions to the home and raising a strong family.
However, true women of God hold a different perspective.
First, they recognize that God has uniquely equipped them with a greater inclination toward nurturing at home.
Second, they recognize their role as a wife and mother as a holy calling and view their husband and children as great treasures from God.
With this radical mindset, a true woman joyfully serves her family.
She thrives alongside her husband in creating a Christ-centered home overflowing with love, laughter, and health.
She takes delight in fostering a warm and nurturing environment where her children can play, rest, and grow.
While her husband works in a harsh, competitive world, a beautiful wife creates a welcoming space for him to retreat and rejuvenate.
“She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.” Proverbs 31:27
"Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him." Psalms 127:3
"May you rejoice in the wife of your youth. May her breasts satisfy you always; may you ever be intoxicated with her love." Proverbs 5:19
15. She Models Grace
A true woman models grace.
She understands that she was born a sinner and, therefore falls short of God’s glory.
She is thankful that her salvation doesn’t come from man-made righteousness, good work, or beauty, but from God’s unwavering grace.
Christ’s sacrifice has cleansed, purified, and justified her before a righteous God.
As a recipient of God’s grace, a woman of God cheerfully pours out to others, serving them as Christ has graciously served her.
She is kind and understanding. She shows compassion to those who are hurting and forgiving those who have wronged her.
She is humble, placing other needs before her own. She radiates a level of peace and calm that stems from an outpouring of God’s constant grace.
“For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God—Ephesians 2:8
"Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience." Colossians 3:12
True Woman in Action
We have just explored 15 timeless traits of a true woman. From expressing a deep fear of God to modeling grace, these enduring traits are the real markers of the true and liberated woman.
So what’s next?
Simple Action Plan for Embracing These 15 True Woman Traits
Step 1. Identify Your Focus Trait
Choose 3 qualities that resonate with you the most.
Prioritize which traits you want to work on first.
Step 2. Add it to Your Daily Regime
Decide on 3 practical ways you can begin to embody or improve on this trait.
For example, let’s say, “I want to become more humble.” Here are three practical steps I’m willing to take:
Whenever I sin, I will repent and ask God for forgiveness.
I choose to willingly serve others, expecting nothing in return.
I will seek more of God and less of me.
Step 3. Always Praying
Ask God for strength and guidance to embody these godly qualities. Always remember to express genuine thanksgiving and gratitude for His glory and all He has done for you.
Step 4: Reflect
At the end of each week or month, reflect on those moments where you have improved.
How did intentionally choosing to embody and embrace this trait make you feel as a child of God? Write it out.
Step 5: Celebrate Small Wins
Becoming a true woman is intentional as it is a work in progress.
It’s a journey of continuous growth in faith, character, obedience to God’s will, and putting aside the sinful self, and allowing the Holy SPIRIT to beautify you from the inside out.
Take time to acknowledge and celebrate those small wins where you have truly reflected those particular traits.
“You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires; to be made new in the attitude of your minds; and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness.” Ephesian 4:22-24
The true woman I yearn to be has everything to do with God’s standards and purposes for my life, and nothing to do with people’s opinions and expectations of me.
The 15 traits I discussed are just a few of the attributes that God called us to pursue. What other traits do you think describe a true woman of God? Which traits resonate with you or challenge you the most? I’d love to hear your thoughts! Your feedback helps me continue creating posts and resources that support your growth as a woman after His heart.
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